Two weeks ago, a wedding invitation on Facebook stirred quite an uproar. What caught everyone’s attention was a bold note written on it: “No Reception.” The reactions were divided, some people applauded the idea while many strongly opposed it.
But let’s be clear: marriage is not a one day journey, neither is it a week’s. It is a lifetime commitment between a man and a woman, built on love and understanding. A reception is not one of the most important aspects of marriage, in fact, it is among the least. This is not to say it is wrong to have one, and it has nothing to do with poverty mentality, but marriage is far more than the party that follows the vows.
Sadly, many young men and women delay marriage because of the pressure to throw a magnificent wedding. They dream of a grand reception, forgetting that no matter how much you spend, people will always find something to criticise. Even if you exhaust your savings, some guests will still not be satisfied.
The reality is simple: the main reason many guests look forward to a wedding reception is food. They will come, dance, eat, and some will even linger late into the night as if they plan to stay forever. But once the music stops and the plates are cleared, they return home leaving the couple to face the true journey of marriage.
Across the country, couples spend huge amounts to meet societal expectations. Costs from hall rentals to catering, décor, attire, photography and entertainment can easily spiral out of control. Many families are still battling financial struggles years after hosting a wedding that went far beyond their means.
The truth is, whether your wedding is grand or simple, people will always talk. If you have little, manage it with pride. Focus on building a strong home rather than throwing an extravagant party. A wedding is for a day, marriage is for a lifetime. When the music ends and the guests leave, what will remain is the life you have prepared for, not the party you threw.
So, to every bachelor and spinster who is ripe for marriage: stop delaying ẹdákun. Spend modestly, take care of yourself, take care of your family, and remember, marriage is built on love, not the size of your reception.
